Jana KramerandMike Caussin are working hardon their marriage, but one of the biggest hurdles for the couple is their sex life.The spouses — whoseparated in 2016butrenewed their vowsin December — sat down to discuss their intimacy issues on Kramer’s latest “Whine Down with Jana Kramer” podcast and opened up to fans about howCaussin’s cheating has affectedtheir relationship.“Unfortunately the infidelity piece plays a part in this,” said Kramer, 34. “There’s times I do wanna have sex, and I play the game of waiting for you to come to me ’cause I’m like ‘Well, you know, why doesn’t he want me? Why doesn’t he wanna sleep with me since he slept with someone else?'”“Then I’m like ‘I’m not pretty enough’ and I’m insecure … and I feel rejected again,” she continued. “I get upset and you get upset.”Caussin, 31, however, explained that he doesn’t “wanna feel tested” and added that the duo are also working on communicating their feelings to each other.David Becker/Getty Images“Especially when there is infidelity involved, communication is key. You and I have slowly gotten better at this,” he said.The former football player also explained that sometimes he’s just tired after a long day and isn’t up for sex. However, that’s difficult for Kramer — who’s still dealing with theaftermath of his cheating— to accept at face value.“I wanna feel chosen. A part of me is like ‘You left me, so now choose me. Jump on me, you know what I mean?'” she said.The couple — who are parents to2-year-old daughter Jolie— did agree that “spontaneous” sex is better than planned sex, especially because Caussin deals with anxiety when it comes to intimacy.“If it starts to become this planning thing, then I get in my head. It’s just anxiety built up to performing,” he said. “That’s something most men won’t really admit. I never connected sex and intimacy and love together before in my life.”Want to keep up with the latest from PEOPLE?Sign up for our daily newsletterto get our best stories of the day delivered straight to your inbox.Caussin also revealed he’s cheated on every single girlfriend he’s had because of his intimacy issues.RELATED VIDEO: Jana Kramer Opens Up About How Her Daughter Has Changed Her LifeEarly in their courtship, Kramer and Caussin had a “great” sex life, but then “it was like ‘What happened? Why are you not wanting to have sex with me?'” she explained. “Our sex life has been tumultuous … it’s been a work-in-progress.”He also became “mean and short-tempered” and looked for physical relationships elsewhere. “I knew I really liked a girl when I started having issues. It was an alarm clock going off in my body … that’s why I’ve been unfaithful in every relationship I’ve ever had. It sucks,” said Caussin.Spantman PhotographyKramer said it was especially hurtful when her husband cheated on her because the duo had been so open with each other about previously being unfaithful in relationships.“I’ve cheated plenty in my past,” she admitted. “Not proud of it, but when we got together … I was like, ‘Look I’m gonna be honest … I want to be different in this relationship. I want to love you, only love you and be with you.’ What hurt was that he said the same thing.”Despite their ongoing marital and intimacy issues, Kramer assured Caussin she was “proud” of him for working on himself.Said the entertainer: “The fact that you even want to work on your intimacy is huge … it’s a bigger uphill battle for you.”
Jana KramerandMike Caussin are working hardon their marriage, but one of the biggest hurdles for the couple is their sex life.
The spouses — whoseparated in 2016butrenewed their vowsin December — sat down to discuss their intimacy issues on Kramer’s latest “Whine Down with Jana Kramer” podcast and opened up to fans about howCaussin’s cheating has affectedtheir relationship.
“Unfortunately the infidelity piece plays a part in this,” said Kramer, 34. “There’s times I do wanna have sex, and I play the game of waiting for you to come to me ’cause I’m like ‘Well, you know, why doesn’t he want me? Why doesn’t he wanna sleep with me since he slept with someone else?'”
“Then I’m like ‘I’m not pretty enough’ and I’m insecure … and I feel rejected again,” she continued. “I get upset and you get upset.”
Caussin, 31, however, explained that he doesn’t “wanna feel tested” and added that the duo are also working on communicating their feelings to each other.
David Becker/Getty Images
“Especially when there is infidelity involved, communication is key. You and I have slowly gotten better at this,” he said.
The former football player also explained that sometimes he’s just tired after a long day and isn’t up for sex. However, that’s difficult for Kramer — who’s still dealing with theaftermath of his cheating— to accept at face value.
“I wanna feel chosen. A part of me is like ‘You left me, so now choose me. Jump on me, you know what I mean?'” she said.
The couple — who are parents to2-year-old daughter Jolie— did agree that “spontaneous” sex is better than planned sex, especially because Caussin deals with anxiety when it comes to intimacy.
“If it starts to become this planning thing, then I get in my head. It’s just anxiety built up to performing,” he said. “That’s something most men won’t really admit. I never connected sex and intimacy and love together before in my life.”
Caussin also revealed he’s cheated on every single girlfriend he’s had because of his intimacy issues.
RELATED VIDEO: Jana Kramer Opens Up About How Her Daughter Has Changed Her Life
Early in their courtship, Kramer and Caussin had a “great” sex life, but then “it was like ‘What happened? Why are you not wanting to have sex with me?'” she explained. “Our sex life has been tumultuous … it’s been a work-in-progress.”
He also became “mean and short-tempered” and looked for physical relationships elsewhere. “I knew I really liked a girl when I started having issues. It was an alarm clock going off in my body … that’s why I’ve been unfaithful in every relationship I’ve ever had. It sucks,” said Caussin.
Spantman Photography
Kramer said it was especially hurtful when her husband cheated on her because the duo had been so open with each other about previously being unfaithful in relationships.
“I’ve cheated plenty in my past,” she admitted. “Not proud of it, but when we got together … I was like, ‘Look I’m gonna be honest … I want to be different in this relationship. I want to love you, only love you and be with you.’ What hurt was that he said the same thing.”
Despite their ongoing marital and intimacy issues, Kramer assured Caussin she was “proud” of him for working on himself.
Said the entertainer: “The fact that you even want to work on your intimacy is huge … it’s a bigger uphill battle for you.”
source: people.com
